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It is imperative to understand that if someone hopes and longs for something then this hope must necessarily include three things:
- Love of what he hopes for.
- Fear of losing it.
- His doing all he can to attain it.
As for a hope that does not contain these three matters then it is nothing but idle desires – hope is one thing and idle desires are something totally different. Therefore every hopeful person is fearful of losing the desired goal and rushes to do all he can to attain it.
At-Tirmidhee reports from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:
“The one who is afraid (of not reaching a place in time) travels by night and the one who travels by night reaches his destination. Indeed the property of Allah is expensive, indeed the property of Allah is Paradise.”
Hence, just as Allah the Glorious has made hope to be the outcome of those who perform righteous action, He has also made fear to be their outcome. Therefore it becomes known that the fear and hope that brings about benefit is when it is accompanied by actions. Allah says:
“Indeed those who live in awe for fear of their Lord; and those who believe in the signs of their Lord; and those who do not join anyone (in worship) as partners with their Lord; and those who give in charity that which they give with their hearts full of fear, because they are sure to return to their Lord. It is these who race for the good deeds and they are the foremost in them.” [al-Mu`minoon (23):57-61]
At-Tirmidhee reports from Aa`ishah (RA) that she said:
“I asked the Messenger of Allah (SAW) about this verse saying, ‘does it refer to those who drink alcohol, fornicate and steal?’ He replied, ‘No O daughter of Siddeeq! It refers to those who fast, pray and give charity while fearing that these actions may not be accepted of them. These are the people who rush to perform good actions.”
Allah has described the people of victory to be those who perform good and have fear and He has described the people of misery to be those who perform evil and live in a sense of security. Whosoever ponders over the lives of the Companions will find them to be lives lived to the full in performing good actions combined with the fear of Allah whereas we combine lack of performing actions, indeed complete negligence in performing actions, with a sense of security!
Here is none other than Abu Bakr Siddeeq saying:
“I wish that I were a hair on the back of a believing servant” as reported by Ahmad. [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ (2/13)]
Ahmad also mentioned that he used so say, taking hold of his tongue:
“This is what has led me to my destruction!” [Malik in al-Muwatta]
He used to cry a great deal saying:
“Cry, and if you cannot cry then endeavour to cry.” [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ (2/13)]
When he stood to pray then it was as if he was a piece of wood due to his fear of Allah, the Mighty and Magnificent. [Refer to ‘Taareekh al-Khulafaa’ (pg. 104)]
He was given a bird and turned it over saying:
“No game is caught nor tree lopped but because of the glorification it neglected.” [ Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ (2/15)]
When death approached him he said to Aishah (RA):
“O daughter indeed I have been given this cloak, milker and slave from the property of the Muslims, quickly take it to ibn al-Khattaab.” [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ (2/16)]
He used to say:
“By Allah I wish that I was a tree that is eaten from and then truncated.”
Qataadah said:
“It has reached me that Abu Bakr said, ‘woe to me, if only I were grass that would be eaten by the animals.’” [ Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ (2/17)]
Here is none other than Umar bin al-Khattaab (RA) reciting Surah at-Tur and when he reached the verse,
“Verily the torment of your Lord will surely come to pass.” [at-Tur (52):7]
He began to cry so much that as a result he fell ill and the people would visit him. [ Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ [2/29] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilya’ (1/51)]
At the time of his death he said to his son:
“Woe to you, leave me lying on the ground so that maybe He will be merciful to me.”
Then he said:
“Woe to me if He does forgive me” three times and passed away. [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ (2/81)]
He would recite a verse during his nightly devotions that would inculcate so much fear in him that he would seclude himself in his house for days to come such that the people would think that he had fallen ill. [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ [2/29] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilya’ (1/51)]
He used to have two black furrows running down his face due to his crying. [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ [2/30] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilya’ (1/51)]
Ibn Abbaas said to him:
“Through you Allah has allowed many lands to be conquered and many battles to be won so do as you please.”
He replied:
“I only wish that I can be saved such that my good deeds balance my evil deeds.” [ Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ [2/34] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilya’ (1/52)]
Here is none other than Uthmaan bin `Affaan (RA) who used to cry so much when he stood by a grave that his beard became soaked. [Reported by at-Tirmidhee [no. 2424], ibn Maajah [no. 4267] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilyah’ (1/61)]
He used to say:
“It is as if I am standing between Paradise and Hell not knowing which one I am destined for. I would choose to be burnt to ashes before knowing which one I am to go to.” [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ [2/42] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilya’ (1/60)]
Here is none other than Alee bin Abee Taalib (RA) whose crying and fear of Allah is well-known. He used to be extremely afraid of two matters: excessive reliance on hope that would lead to inaction and the following of desires. He said:
“As for excessive reliance on hope then it causes one to forget the Hereafter, as for vain desires then they divert from the truth. Indeed this world will pass away and ahead of it lies the Hereafter and each one has its offspring. So be the children of the Hereafter and do not be the children of the world for indeed today is the time for action without recompense and tomorrow is the time of recompense with no action.” [Reported by Ahmad in ‘az-Zuhd’ [2/48] and Abu Nu`aym in ‘al-Hilya’ (1/76)]
Here is Abu ad-Dardaa (RA) who used to say:
“The thing I fear most for myself on the Day of Judgement is that it be said to me, ‘O Abu ad-Dardaa` you have learnt but how much did you act upon what you knew?’” [All of the following narrations can be found in ‘az-Zuhd’ of Imaam Ahmad and ‘al-Hilya’ of Abu Nu`aym]
He used to say:
“If only you knew what would certainly happen to you after death – you would never again eat a single bite out of a craving appetite, neither would you drink a single sip of water for the pleasure of insatiable thirst and neither would you resort to your homes seeking shade and comfort. Instead you would go out to the open desert, striking your chests and crying over what is to happen to you. Indeed I wish that I were a tree that is truncated and then eaten from.”
The eyes of Abdullaah bin Abbaas (RA) used to be continuously downcast due to his frequent crying.
Abu Dharr (RA) used to say:
“I wish that I were a tree that is truncated and I wish that I were not created.”
When he was offered charity he used to say:
“We have a goat that provides us milk, a donkey upon which we ride and a freed slave who serves us (of his own free will). I possess a cloak which I do not need and I fear that I will be judged for it.”
One night Tameem ad-Daaree (RA) recited Surah al-Jaathiyah and when he reached the verse,
“Or do those who earn evil deeds think that We shall hold them equal with those who believe and do righteous deeds.” [al-Jaathiyah (45):21]
He began to cry and kept repeating the verse until the morning.
Abu Ubaydah Aamir bin al-Jarraah (RA) said:
“I wish that I was a ram that was slaughtered by my family and then they ate its (cooked) flesh and drank its soup.”
There are many many narrations like this.
Ibraaheem at-Taimee said:
“I have never compared my words to my actions except that I feared that I was a liar.”
Ibn Abee Mulaykah said:
“I have met thirty of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (SAW) all of them fearing hypocrisy for themselves and not one of them said that he had the faith of Jibraa`eel and Mikaa`eel.”
It is mentioned from Hasan (al-Basree) that he said:
“None but a believer fears hypocrisy and none but a hypocrite feels secure from it.”
Umar bin al-Khattaab used to say to Hudhayfah:
“I ask you by Allah did the Messenger of Allah (SAW) list me amongst the hypocrites?” He replied, “no, and I will not give this tazkiyyah to anyone else besides you.”
Close to this in meaning is the saying of the Prophet (SAW) to the one who asked him to supplicate and make him one of the seventy thousand who would enter Paradise without judgement, “Ukkaasha has preceeded you.” He did not mean that Ukkaasha was the only one deserving of this to the exclusion of the other Companions. Rather the meaning is that had he supplicated then another would have stood and then another and the door to this would have been opened and it is possible that somebody stand who would not be deserving of his supplication and therefore it would be better to withhold. Allah knows best.
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Posted November 26, 2008
on:- ALWAYS speak the TRUTH. Never hesitate in speaking the truth even at the greatest risk.
- Speak only when you must, and always talk with a PURPOSE. Too much talk and useless conversation betrays a lack of seriousness. Your are accountable before Allah for every word you utter. The Angel of Allah records. “A supervisor remains vigilant to preserve on record every speech that is uttered by his tongue.”
- Always speak POLITELY.
- Wear a smile on your face and a sweet tone in your speech.
- Always speak in a moderate voice. Do not keep your voice so low as to be inaudible to the addressee, nor raise it so loud that the addressee might be over-awed by your voice. Allah affirms: “Surely! the harshest of all the voices is the voice of the ass.” [31 : 19]
- Do NOT spoil your tongue with dirty talk. Do NOT speak ill of others. Never indulge in backbiting. Do not complain against others. Never indulge in mimicking others to ridicule them.
- Do not make false promises.
- Never laugh at others, nor boast of your own superiority or indulge in self praise.
- Never get unreasonable and rash in conversation. Do not pass remarks by a disgraceful name.
- Avoid swearing frequently.
- Always say what is JUST and FAIR regardless of any loss of yourself, your friend or relative. “And when you say something, speak what is just even if you are talking about your relative.”
- Be soft-spoken, REASONABLE and SYMPATHETIC in your conversation. Do not utter sharp, harsh and teasing remarks.
- When women happen to talk with men, they should speak in a CLEAR, STRAIGHT, and rough manner. They ought not speak in delicate, sweet tone lest the listener should entertain any foul expectation.
- If the impudent want to entangle you in dialogue or altercation offer them ‘Salaam’ POLITELY and LEAVE them. Those who indulge in loose talk and absurd conversation are the worst lot of the Ummah.
- Keep in view the mental level and outlook of the man you are talking to so as to make him understand. If the addressee cannot hear or is unable to catch your meaning, repeat what you have said before without any resentment.
- Always be BRIEF and to the point in your talk. It is unfair to prolong discussion without rhyme or reason.
- When you wish to explain the tenets of Al-Islam or want to speak on the teachings of Al-Islam be simple and clear and speak in a passionate and HEART-WARMING style. To seek reputation through oratory, to try to impress people with flowery language, to seek popularity among people, to adopt a proud and haughty mien, or to deliver speeches only for the sake of fun and recreation –all these are the worst habits that corrupt the man to the core of his heart.
- Never indulge in flattery, or ingratiate with anybody. Always mind your honour and respect and avoid anything below your dignity.
- Do not interrupt and interfere in others’ conversation without their permission, nor intercept others conversation in order to say something yourself. If, however, you must speak, do so with the permission of the other.
- Speak slowly in a proper and DIGNIFIED manner. Do not speak in a hurried manner nor indulge in fun and jokes all the time as it degrades you in the eyes of others.
- If somebody puts a question to you, listen CAREFULLY to him and make an answer after careful thought. It is simply foolish to answer the questions without due consideration. If the questions are being put to somebody else, do not be officious as to give answers yourself.
- When someone is narrating something, do not say “we know already.” Maybe he reveals something new and impresses you by his sincerity and piety.
- When you talk to someone, give due regard to his age, status, and his relationship to you. Do not talk with your parents, teachers, and elders in a manner in which you would talk with your friends. Likewise, when you are talking to youngsters, speak with affection and elderly dignity.
- While engaged in conversation, do not point out towards any one lest he should conceive any misunderstanding or suspicion. Abstain from eavesdropping on others.
- Listen more and talk less. Do not reveal your secrets to others. Once you disclose a secret to someone, never expect it to remain a secret any more.
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